When you're going on a date with someone you've never met before — whether that's someone you met on a dating appa friend of a friend, or a totally blind date — it's normal to be a little nervous and worry that things won't go well.
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Going on a first datewhether in-person or via Zoom, can feel like walking a tightrope. And there's a lot you have to focus on at once, such as trying to figure out what to say while wondering if you've fully wiped off all that spaghetti sauce from your beard. All of these pressures are why a lot of guys get nervous on a first date and end up missing their shot at a second one. You don't want that to be you—and we don't want that to be you, either. That's why we spoke with a few relationship experts to get their top tips on how to make your first date less scary, more fun, and super likely to land you date two.
Taylor Sparks, Erotic Educator and Founder of Tips for the first date Lovenencourages you to ask questions until you find something you have in common—and it doesn't have to be a shared passion. Not the case, says relationship expert April Masini of AskApril. Way to make a person feel special, right? Touching is natural, but overdoing it can get a little weird.
Lieberman says. Curb the cursing habit now, in anticipation of all your future first dates and job interviews, and other non-sailing situationsDr. You don't need to check those texts right now, no matter how much your friends are LOL-ing at that TikTok someone just shared. Ignoring outside distractions will show your date you're invested in the shared experience and make them feel valued. It's also good for your own wellbeing to relax and enjoy the time you two have together.
Don't ask them what they do for a living.
Pause before speaking. Pay attention to your five senses: smell, touch, sight, sound, taste, and savor them. You both deserve to enjoy this time together, even if it turns out, down the road, that you're not compatible. Some good options to take the pressure off: a play or a concert.
It's always a nice gesture to offer to treat your date, but if they want to split the bill, be open to that. We live in a society that allows for egalitarian partnerships!
Be mindful of touchiness.
If they object, you can explain that you're totally willing to go dutch on your next date, but since they agreed to spend their evening with you, you'd like to get this one. If they're still insistent on splitting the first-date check, do it. Allow them to establish boundaries that make them feel comfortable. We should all take time to look nice for a date. This also applies to a virtual date!
If you start off with some comment on how great their butt looks in those pants, they're not going to be into it. They will be immediately put off.
Stick to more neutral compliments, like "You look really nice tonight. Joking around with your date is a great way to break the ice. Everyone likes funny guys.
Keep it light and flirty. Find out something you both agree on.
For instance, maybe you both think Frasier is a pretentious and terrible show, or absolutely love It's Always Sunny. Joke about that together. Remember that this is a date and enjoying yourselves is important—it isn't a job interview. Make use of the kitchen to break the ice!
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A super fun way to make a virtual date feel both romantic and fun is to cook separately, but together. Decide on a simple meal that both of you can make in your kitchens over Zoom. You can follow along in the recipe together. This will give you an opportunity to ask your date questions about themselves while keeping your hands busy.
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This makes for fewer awkward silences. Set the mood. Light some candles and sit down to eat together. For more virtual date ideas, head here! At the very least, you can make a friend out of the deal. United States. Type keyword s to search.
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