It took me a long time to realize I was suffering from dating burnout. I thought every guy was the same old disappointment and felt frustrated with how hard it was to meet a decent dude I actually saw as a good match.
Take it from me: After being totally fed up with the general ickiness of the dating pool, I put myself on a self-imposed sabbatical from it more than a year ago—and blissfully single I remain. To be clear, back when I was playing the field, I did try with earnest, using all the modern tools of the trade available to me.
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So a bit after turning 33, I decided to go cold turkey on dating. Dating made me stressed and feel worse about myself and my prospects, so rather than endure all of that for the possibility of love, I temporarily threw in the towel to reclaim my power of choice. According to dating experts, all of my feelings are becoming more and more commonplace for a of reasons, like the search being endless, exhausting, and not very fun at all.
And with rampant burnout paralyzing so much productivity, who needs more work? I decided to take some time off to focus on me, because wasting my time with terrible dudes was exhausting.
To this point, Philadelphia-based kindergarten teacher Danielle Klaiman says her three-year break from dating apps has afforded her the time to strengthen the one relationship that matters most. Beyond spending QT with yourself, taking a break from dating can provide you the space to figure out what you really want from life.
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While I definitely endure pangs of lonelinessdating and the prospect of finding a partner are thoughts that rarely occupy my hepace and are hardly priorities. Everyone has different personal goals, but I do ultimately want to find someone, so I worry about getting complacent in the comfort of my sabbatical swaddle.
First, ditch the rom-com narrative in your head. Instead, set aside time in your day, and really, your life, to make dating a priority again. And no matter your goals—whether to date again or not—being the owner of your time is key to feeling empowered.
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