We all know these people, perhaps maybe you are one of them. Amazing people, who make bad relationship choice, after bad relationship choice. The friends and family members, who are either head over heels in love, or miserable and depressed because they had another relationship failure, and cannot bear the thought of being alone. If you want love, and a long lasting relationship, but cannot seem to ever make it happen, you may be looking for long in the wrong places.
So you're not a "10" in every which way.
But you're probably pretty spectacular in some way, and definitely good enough in most areas of life. If ever there were a time to stop beating yourself up for being human, it is now. Verified by Psychology Today. The Age of Overindulgence.
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The notion that childhood experiences positive or negative leave indelible marks on the individual lasting a lifetime is not a new one. For example:.
It is no surprise then that childhood overindulgence may influence individuals in adulthood. Does childhood overindulgence influence our love life? Does it consciously or unconsciously influence the partners we pick and how we interact with them?
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A follow-up study identified what is called the "Relationship Overindulgence Triangle. Participants were asked questions covering childhood overindulgence of which three questions form the relationship overindulgence triangle.
Respondents answered each question using the following Likert scale : 1 never or almost never, 2 seldom, 3 sometimes, sometimes not, 4 frequently, 5 always or almost always. Correlations between the responses to these questions support the hypothesis that childhood overindulgence plays a role in finding and maintaining adult romantic relationships.
Practice aloha: Do all things with love, grace, and gratitude. Bredehoft, D. Perceptions attributed by adults to parental overindulgence during childhood.
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