Divorce is no joke. After the papers are ed, many divorced women are ready for a break and just need to have some fun, looking for ways to relieve all that built-up stress. However, there are some people who could be looking to take advantage of your current position. As a divorced woman, you can easily become vulnerablelooking for comfort in all the wrong places.
I had casual sex once in my 20s with a guy I liked. Or maybe I just talked myself into liking him. He was moving to California in a few weeks, and I could tell he was just having fun.
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He was nice and all, but the sex was really bad, and I constantly asked myself why I was doing something so intimate with a guy who treated me as an afterthought and never gave me an orgasm. Maybe it was because I was lonely. Maybe it was because I wanted someone to appreciate my new underwear, but it was probably because I secretly hoped I would change his mind, make him see how amazing I was, introduce me to his friends, and then perhaps the mind-blowing orgasms would come.
After he moved away, I told myself I would never do that again. I wanted to find a husband, a father for my children, someone to share a home with, and I needed to create space for that.
Fast-forward almost 25 years; I met my husband, a man who respected me and wanted the same things I did, but after 20 years of marriage, we fell out of love. I have enough friends, thank you. I like to wake up, sprawl out on my bed, and dive into my morning routine.
2. you might feel like you cheated, but you didn’t
For the first time in my life, I legitimately want to have no-strings-attached, casual sex. It is something that manifested a few months after my husband moved out.
I was feeling very happy and fulfilled, but I was missing something — hot sex. It had been way too long, and I needed it.
My vibrating boyfriend was no longer cutting it, if you know what I mean. I wanted to put on my sexy underwear, go to dinner, then take him home and lose myself in him for a few hours, and then say goodbye. I sleep so much better when I have the bed to myself, and I would prefer to spend my kid-free time with my sisters or my friends. And that is what I am doing. For the first time in my life, I can admit I want this and only this. I can have fantastic sex, and that fulfills me right now.
Hey guys! want more sex in marriage? take the divorced girl’s advice!