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Posted Jan 05, Reviewed by Ekua Hagan. Consider the characteristics that are often considered desirable in a mate—a sense of humorintelligencekindness, understanding, a family orientation, good looks. Which would you rank as most important in a romantic partner?


Which is least important to you? Research consistently shows that we rank most or all of these traits as more important than good looks Apostolou, ; Apostolou, ; Buss et al. However, consciously ranking traits as more or less important may not reflect the way we make our real-life dating and mating decisions.

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Louise told me that looks were not that important to her, but that a good sense of humor was dating and attraction must. Physical attractiveness may serve as a gatekeeper directing us toward partners who are healthy, age appropriate, and able to reproduce Weeden and Sabini, And when we make real-life dating and mating decisions, research indicates, physical appearance dominates: We choose to pursue relationships with those who are attractive to us see Luo and Zhang, ; Kurzban and Weeden, ; Thao et al.


Men both gay and straight seem to consciously recognize the importance of physical attractiveness more than women both straight and lesbian; see Lippa, However, experimental research, as well as evidence from online dating and speed dating, shows that physical attractiveness is equally important to men and women. Further, attractiveness tends to be a more important factor in our dating decisions than traits like personalityeducationand intelligence Eastwick et al.

Physical attractiveness may be so important to dating and attraction because we associate other positive qualities with a pleasing appearance. For example, attractive individuals are expected to be happier and to have more rewarding life experiences than unattractive individuals Dion et al.

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This tendency to associate attractiveness with positive qualities occurs crossculturally Shaffer et al. In Dion et al. To interest us, then, potential mates do not need to be exceptionally attractive, only moderately so.


The distinction between necessities and luxuries Li et al. According to Li et al. But how attractive is "moderately" attractive? More attractive people tend to perceive fewer others as physically attractive while less attractive individuals may consider a broader range of others appealing Montoya, But no matter our personal level of attractiveness, or our partner's, as we get to know, like, and respect each other more, our attraction naturally grows and deepens Kniffin and Wilson, The longer we know each other, the less important physical attractiveness becomes to beginning and maintaining a long-term relationship Hunt et dating and attraction.

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