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How to decide if he’s right for you
Hi all, I went on 2 dates with a lovely man. We are both in our mid 30s.
On the first date he immediately told me he is separated for a year with divorce on the horizon within the next couple of months. He says he has moved on emotionally. They do not have. Sounds like he dated maybe a handful of women over the past few months.
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There is a court date set? This is a little difficult for me to answer, because I myself would not date a separated guy, no matter what his circumstances. As in, there would not even be a first date. Even a divorce that is not complicated short marriage, no kids has emotional aftereffects that need to be processed.
But in your circumstance, if you want to keep seeing him, I would proceed with caution. For starters, two dates is nothing. I agree with Raven that I would ask more questions about his plans for divorce.
There is some good advice on there. Just to reiterate some of the advice being in this type of situation is not a good idea to the start of a relationship. I understand he says he is emotionally detached and I do believe that can happen, but until he is through the entire process and has been on his own after the divorce should he consider dating seriously.
What if he likes the dating scene and no desire to commit again? You need to let him get his act together before you become fully invested. I would pull back and let him know that you respect his honesty but that until his divorce is final you prefer to keep things on a friend level.
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Some states still have legal requirements that the couple has to be fully separated for at least a year before they can even file for divorce. I get it. It took me almost four years after my divorce to finally be in a state of mind where I would even consider a relationship again. Even then I was still fighting between not wanting to give up my single life to giving it up but my single life kept winning for a few more years because I truly preferred it over the latter.
If you continue to date him, you need to keep your eyes wide open and not only carefully watch him but listen to everything he says because stuff will slip out the more comfortable a man becomes that will shed a lot more light on his true state of mind. Very good advicethanks all! Will keep dating others! He lived with my mum and lied to her about it.
He was always saying he loved me still and it got to the point where he would lie about seeing me even though there was nothing dodgy going on- just friends. She has handled it with good grace and is lovely to them but it took 2 years for him to see how wonderful she is and stop hankering after us reconciling even though I never gave him a single shred of hope. The other side of that is I dated a separated man last year.
Turns out he was very much still married. The creep still messages me now a whole year later! Name required :. Mail will not be published required :.
Here are my thoughts on dating a separated man going through a divorce, something i’ve done twice.
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